Why do man find their dream woman but let their fears and hurts from past relationships keep them away from experience true love?

Good question, no, actually great question. Traditionally men or at least some men are known to not be so forthcoming with their emotions. Some men have trouble expressing how they feel because they’re not comfortable doing so. Expressing your love to someone takes courage, and I’m not saying that men are not courageous, but usually when it comes to matters of the heart we build walls around it in order to keep it safe from harm. When a man has been hurt emotionally it’s very difficult for him to release those emotions again. We generally are not as trusting as you ladies. That’s why I’ve always felt that if men had to deal with the crap that we put women through it would be a different ball game. Men wouldn’t accept the things some women accept. We wouldn’t put up with having our hearts broken time and time again. We’re just not equipped to handle the ups and downs of the emotions that come with all of that.

It’s very clear to me, at least in my opinion that both genders might fair a little better if we could adopt some things from each another. Women could learn to be a little more protective with their hearts, and men could benefit from opening up their hearts and revealing their true emotions.

Another thing to consider is his upbringing. How was he raised? As a boy if he grew up with a strong male role model he might have been influenced not to be emotional. The typical scenario for a lot of men growing up was that they weren’t allowed to cry. When they did they heard things like, “What are you crying for,” “Boys don’t cry,” “Crying is for girls,” “Be a man and stop that crying.” I’ve heard this story so many times. If boys aren’t allowed to be emotional then they grow up sometimes being emotionally challenged. This is not to make an excuse or condone any man’s inability to say how he feels. I’m just trying to shed some light and maybe a different perspective.