I met a woman who told me that she had been with her guy for over a year and everything was great, except for the physical aspect of their relationship. She enjoyed their passionate moments, but was a bit concerned being real with him. After some probing I found out that based on her description she was quite tame in bed, but only because she didn’t want to be judged by him. She was afraid that being her true self would make him see her as some type of sexual freak.
LADIES, THIS IS MY ADVICE TO HER AND ANY WOMAN WHO SUFFERS FROM THIS SELF INFLICTED WAY OF THINKING:
Come—Walk With Me…
Let me be clear when I say that your guy wants you to be NAUGHTY! Yes, naughty, naughty…the naughtier the better. He wants you to be so naughty that if you Google the word naughty your name comes up first. Okay, I’m joking about the Google thing, but you know what I mean. And by the way, wanting to explore your sexual appetite with your partner doesn’t make you a freak, abnormal, or strange. You don’t have to do any acrobatics, or install a stripper pole, but be creative. At first he might wonder who you are, but he’ll most likely appreciate the naughty in you. The things that you might be worried about will probably not even faze him. Try your best to put your insecurities away long enough for you to vamp it up. Do it one night, and he’ll be so thankful that he’ll be looking forward to seeing that side of you again, and again. So make sure it’s really who you are, or what you enjoy doing because ole boy will be looking for many repeat performances.
It’s shocking to me that a woman could feel this way, but then I’m reminded that we’re all more critical of ourselves than anyone else. My advice to any woman who shares this same fear is to introduce him to that hidden side of your sexiness, but do it in small doses. Let him know that tonight you want to spice it up by trying something new, or just tell him tonight you’re going to make him feel extra special. I’m telling you the curiosity of what’s to come will be enough to drive him crazy. Keep in mind that men love the physical stuff with their women, and for the most part they don’t care how they get it from you, just as long as they get it.
However, I just want to add that I realize not all men are the same, so there may be some men who don’t care for adventurous sex…I don’t know any, but there may be one, or two.
So just in case your guy is that guy revealing your more daring side should still be okay, but maybe you should just hold off on using any foreign objects. Your best bet is to not use anything that is not normally attached to your body. This is just my opinion and hopefully your Rude Awakening.
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